“Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” – Rumi

Why I chose Reiki


ReikiSome people have no clue what Reiki is. Some think it’s related to religion, but it is not. It can be a spiritual practice, but it does not conform to nor is it derived from any religion. You can practice any or no religion and benefit from reiki. In basic terms, the word reiki comes from two words: rei – which basically means higher source wisdom, and ki- which is the non-physical energy that is in every living thing. Reiki is a form in the Healing Arts and is often associated with holistic ideals.

I decided to title this post, “Why I chose Reiki.” But the honest truth is that Reiki chose me. It’s important for me to mention that here because across almost all platforms, I have heard the same thing from most Reiki practitioners. Reiki chooses us; it comes to us at just the right time, when we need it most. And that is exactly what happened to me.

My wife and I were having a spa day to celebrate our anniversary. The location offered many services and I figured, I’d never tried Reiki, so why not.  I didn’t go into it with any preconceptions. I got there, laid on the table and was given a basic idea of what reiki was. And then it began. A reiki session is different for every person;  I was blown away by the experience. My reiki healer changed my life in that session and onward. Nathaly (you can check her out at The Lotus Experiment) changed my life. Our session was incredible, for both of us. It was then that she shared with me that she believed that I was a natural born healer. I had felt for a long time that I am meant to help others. And I have been doing that in many ways in my life. But that moment was a luminous, light bulb moment. My calling lay before me, drenched in white light!

What changed?

I had been a long, long time sufferer of anxiety. The smallest thing would frazzle me. I had many scars from a bad long-term relationship. I had hurts from childhood. I had confidence issues. I had a LOT of stuff. I am not saying that after that one session, everything was better. What I AM saying is that it began to change. My healing commenced after that first session. Reiki works on healing your energies, aligning your chakras.  Within a week, I could literally feel the shift in my existence. I felt calmer. I felt like I could start dealing with my issues. Reiki will sometimes bring an issue to the surface, but that is so that you can deal with it and heal from it. That is what happened for me. I noticed it the most with my anxieties. They began to lessen drastically. I saw Nathaly several more times and then I decided that I needed to become a Reiki practitioner, that this is one of my purposes on Earth, to share this amazing gift with others. I am lucky that I had the opportunity to attune to level one and two of Reiki with the person who made such a profound impact in my life. We will have a life long connection.

Reiki also busted my intuition wide open. I began to work with Oracle cards to hone my intuition and I instantly found a connection to Spirit. I still marvel daily at the accuracy and gentle guidance that comes through me in the Oracle Cards. They have offered me guidance, and every single person that I have done a spread for or pulled a card for has resonated with the guidance as well.

So now, I am a Reiki Practitioner and Oracle Card reader. It felt really good to be able to put that on a business card, to connect with those titles because I do feel connected to them. I am well on my way to growing in both, and the potential is limitless. I practice Reiki for myself, my family and others. I can do either reiki or oracle readings via distance because both deal with energy, which travels through all time and space. If you are thinking about trying Reiki, I encourage you to do so. If you do, remember, whether you feel anything or nothing, the reiki is working.

I am always open to questions and inquiries. You can email me below and if you like, follow me on Instagram, @maraliswrites for positive vibes!

~Thanks for reading.




Discovering your light/Clark Kent

Lightpath I’ve been thinking of ways to explain the phase of life that I am currently in. I am, indeed, discovering my light. The statement is easy enough to understand, but my harder to explain the experience of it. I find it similar to the excitement of listening to your favorite artists music, the ones you know all the music to, the ones you sing in the car, the shower and at karaoke- and then going to a concert where they are all performing, and having front row seats! It’s one thing to hear it, and a completely different thing to experience it.

I’ve been told many, many times in my life that I have a “light” around me. This has been said to me by  friends, employers and mystics, alike. My father passed away when I was sixteen, and he was a mystic. I have always felt his protective presence around me. (I think it’s a gift that he left for me.) It gives me a great sense of serenity, safety, guidance and tranquility. The women in my family also tend to have some special abilities. So, it has all just been a part of me, something I knew was there, but never delved into.

Currently: My path, my purpose, my entire existence is illuminated! I had a completely profound experience that kicked off my year in a way that I didn’t expect. But the Universe, God, The Divine- knows when it’s time.  (See blog before this one, for deets on that!) For the first time ever, in this way, I felt awakened. I feel the essence, the light, inside. It’s totally exciting! (No going back to sleep for this gal!) But more than that, I feel in touch with my purpose, spiritually connected to it. I am driven to deepen my knowledge, expand my mind, discover my light. I am learning about Reiki Healing and in search of a reiki master to guide me on that path. I am learning more about yoga, not just the movements, but the intentions and breathing, the purpose and whole benefits of it. And I am learning about meditation.

Have you ever felt like Clark Kent? I do, every day. I wake up, get dressed in my work clothes, complete with the glasses, and go to work. I am professional and capable at my job. Normal. Standard. Maybe even, boring. But inside, I am bursting with light! I am in awe of it; I feel it. I am drawn to learn how to use it to help others. And it’s not just about “saving” people. I want to help people discover their own personal light. That might be completely different (their light discovery) from my experience, my journey. But, if I can share some of my light, inspire, heal, help, that’s what I want to do. I know I’ve used this light already, in my work, to help others. But I am feeling called to do more, to learn more, to share more, to heal more.

If you’ve experienced this moment of discovery, please share your experience. How did you navigate your day to day life, while nurturing your spiritual journey?


New Year, New Leaf

Sometimes, it is necessity that prompts drastic change. 2017 was quite a year for me. Many changes took place. The most drastic, was my diagnosis of Hashimoto’s disease. I knew I had thyroid problems, but not this condition. It answered a lot of questions I’d had for a long time about why I had certain symptoms. It also prompted big changes in my lifestyle.

So as this new year begins, in the first 11 days, I have really looked inside myself to decide the type of life I want to live with all of what currently is in my life. I could not be happier about my life choices, at this point. I am eating healthier, in a way that will heal my body from the outside in. I am investing in my mental health by making a commitment to the practice of meditation, and yoga. I a finishing my degree. And I am leading with love, every step of the way.

Another thing I did that rejuvenated my purpose is that I went to a Reiki Healer. Not only was I immersed in the experience, I almost felt like I was awakened. The healer told me many things after our session. Two things stood out to me. The first was that she told me that I am a natural born healer.  She said that through our session, even though she was healing me, I was also, simultaneously, healing her. She told me that in some way, I will use my healing gift. The second thing she told me was about a light around me. I have had 3 prior distinct experiences where I was told that I have a bright white light surrounding me. I sometimes dream in white. I know that sounds odd because you can’t see white, really. But imagine everything ultra illuminated, as if the sun was the brightest it could be, almost blinding. It’s quite profound,  magical. The women in my family have a long history of having “other abilities”. My father was also a special practitioner in his lifetime. I believe I share a combination of my maternal and paternal gifts. Either way, in this lifetime, I must explore this gift I have been given, and how I can use it to help others.

This year is a year of learning and exponential growth. My mind is a sponge, my spirit, present, with open arms. My heart is my guide, my light is my gift, and I can’t wait to uncover, layer by layer, my life’s purposes.

What are your plans to grow, to realize your life’s purpose this year?


The introverted extrovert

Introvert: a shy, reticent person (-a most basic definition, as introverts have many layers)

Extrovert: an outgoing, overtly expressive person

Are you like me? Are you out there, introverted extroverts? I know I am not the only one. It’s like this, you see, to be an introverted extrovert. I am shy. I am even maybe timid a bit. It may sometimes even look like I am mean (city-raised defense mechanism). It may also look like I am stuck up and stand-offish. But, I am not. It’s just what it’s like to be an introvert. I love people! I love talking to people. When I first meet someone, I am usually quieter. Some of it is shyness, some of it is assessing the situation. I am a person who relies strongly on my intuition and the energy I feel around people. I take this in, and it helps navigate me as to how to proceed. Sometimes this is instantaneous, because energy can be strong and can be a great indicator. Sometimes, I need a little more time. But, once I have met someone and have a good vibe, well then, it’s a horse of a different color! (or a unicorn) I am vibrant and enthusiastic. The extrovert comes sashaying right on out, and then my issue is to gauge how much sparkle to sprinkle on the situation!

I know there are tons of us. I love social interactions. I love talking to people hearing their stories. I love things like laughing, dancing, coffee-ing (that’s a thing because I say so). BUT, I also very much love quiet time, walks in nature (with my amazing wife), reading and occasionally, solitude. It’s important to me to note that the occasional desire for solitude does not mean someone is depressed. For me, especially being an empath, I need that time to recharge. And as a writer, I need that time to connect with words and thoughts. I’m sure this is true for anyone who does something creative, like painting, pottery, etc…

I sometimes have to force myself out of my shell. Because if we give into the shy nature too much, it can lead to loneliness. And that busy little extrovert in me just won’t have it!

What’s it like for you?



Discomfort of change

Some days, different things I see or read, like posts on IG, steer my thoughts. Today I read a post and that’s exactly what happened. My response to the post, basically, was that change can be uncomfortable, but when it’s necessary, it’s worth it. We’ve all heard of the phrase “growing pains”. Sometimes, growth hurts. If something is truly worthwhile, it is a small task to endure the discomfort for growth. And there are times when fear will rear its ugly head, making you feel trapped.

As a woman who was in a very unhealthy, emotionally abusive marriage for many years, I definitely get that. Although deep down I knew things needed to change, I needed to get out of that relationship, I was afraid. Do you want to know what I feared the most? It wasn’t my safety. It was failure. I feared that I couldn’t make it. I feared that while I might get out of the relationship, I might not make it on my own. I think this is a fear that keeps many people trapped in abusive relationships. I had a quote tattooed on my arm, by a poet named Anais Nin, about a year before I got the courage. I knew I needed this reminder, daily. It says: “…and the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”. I knew I was slowly dying, all of the beautiful parts of me were withering. The day did come when I could no longer contribute to my self destruction. And I did leave. It was hard, but I did it. I didn’t fail. I wasn’t homeless or unable. I made it work. I did it for myself and for my children, who I demanded custody of. I have always had faith. I have always believed in doing good. I knew that I would prevail, no matter the difficulty of the transition. My children were my primary motivation. The secondary was, that I needed to blossom. I needed to see what it felt like to be fully and truly me, a person that I love. It was the hardest change because it took the most bravery. I was not comfortable for a long time. I did a lot of self reflection and a lot of growing. When I committed to living intentionally life changed for me.

I look at this tattoo now and it’s’ a daily reminder -of what I have overcome, of how I have indeed blossomed despite the discomfort it took to get here. Change is good. Change is worth it. Be brave. Believe in yourself.


New Year, New Promise

The beauty of time is that it is continuous. There lies before each of us, experience, adventure and joy. Of course no life is perfect and disappointment and hard lessons await too. But those are all a matter of perspective, I think; each is an opportunity to learn something about yourself or about life. 

I believe it is a good idea, as each year commences, to think about the things you’d like to add to your life or improve in your life. I don’t call them resolutions. I try to make a goal that I can meet, a change that I can feasibly accomplish and measure within a year. It’s a good idea to make it something you can be attached to. Make some sort of reminder or alert for yourself to keep track. Some find a vision board (Great vision board link) motivational and helpful. I like to read motivational quotes that are relevant to my goals. Also, keep yourself accountable by sharing your goal. I will share one of mine. I plan to be more creative this year. I feel compelled to nurture my artist side, in various ways. Do I know yet how that will manifest? No. But I know that it feels important to me. When I think quietly and reach into my spirit, that is what I hear and feel. 

What does your spirit tell you?




Secure is not a word I would have used to describe myself a year ago. Nor is confident. I have always had a huge heart, a love for life and humanity and enthusiasm. But I’ve always led with humility, never arrogance. 

Today, as I prepare to enter the last month of 2016, I can honestly say I am secure. I am secure in myself because I have learned to love myself, flaws and all. I am secure because I know who I am and am always working towards being a better person. I lead with love, always. 

It is because I have found myself, embraced who I am and learned to respect myself, that I can happily say that I’m in a secure relationship too. It’s quite a beautiful experience to connect with someone on so many levels, and to have as much to give as your partner does. 

Something magical happens when you decide to be honest with yourself and shift your mindset. I am such a firm believer in the thought, ‘change your mind, change your life‘. Wishing doesn’t work. You have to believe in what you want and what you deserve. It is in the believing, that you start to experience the magic. Are you ready to start believing?


Words gone

Earlier today, I began a blog post. Technology has its flaws of course and my    original blog post did not save. I have always been a believer in the phrase, “everything happens for a reason”. So instead of huffing and puffing about words that are now gone, I decided to ponder why, perhaps they were never meant to be posted. 

The post was about finding time to create; something I’ve found very difficult over the past year. I thought about what I had written. The words were meant to come out to help me through that thought process. So in writing about being able to find time to create, not only had I found time, but I also created. 

It is my very favorite thing about writing. Each time I place a word, it is taking me some place, down some road, closer to some realization. Those particular words may be gone but they still served a purpose. I have always said that if what I’ve written strikes a chord with even just one person, then it was totally worth writing. This time that person was my very own self. Goodbye words and thank you for the message. I will continue to write it out. (*as if that was a choice) 😜

The gains from loss

Last week, I participated in an incredible experience. I stepped out of my comfort zone to meet and engage with strong, motivated women. While I am definitely a  vibrant personality once I’ve met and conversed with a person, at first, I’m still that very shy girl who sat in the last row, last seat and kept my nose in the books, in high school. This was a chance for me to meet new people and I wanted to try it out. This program was started locally by an inspiring woman, Sheena Jeffers, who had this idea to bring women together. Another thing that drew me in was the name of the group, “Well Women”. My newfound liberty and freedom since my divorce had led me on the path to wellness. I gave it a try and was blown away. It was the first time that I was doing something as me, my true self. I was meeting other women and presenting myself as I proudly am- a divorcee, a mother, a creative, a writer and a lesbian. That alone felt great. Then we got into the discussion led by a moving an talented artist, Betsy DiJulio, who shared her story of loss (she was widowed suddenly & lost her dog and her mom shortly after). But it was also the story of her journey to wellness. It was incredible. Then we had a discussion and the question that stood out most to me was, “What did you gain from loss?” That was when it really occurred to me that I gained so much from loss! I gained my identity. I gained my self worth. I gained my pride and I gained my strength! Think about it from a different perspective. What have you gained from a loss? (We referred to it as positive gains!) 

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