I had it all wrong for so long. My capacity to love has always been great. I am a nurturer. In taking care of others, by helping others, I experience joy…and love. There was, however, a critical problem with my method. When I finally stopped to ask myself, “Who was loving me? Who was making me feel loved?” I had a light bulb moment. I am a mother, so of course I feel love from my children. But I began to examine in depth, all of the other relationships in my life. My findings were that about 97% of my relationships were toxic, abusive and/or draining. These relationships were draining my energy immensely. The saddest part, the harshest realization was that the one person who I needed love from the most, was paying no attention… Myself. I had forgotten to take care of and nurture myself. I embarked on an expedition to reclaim my true, loving and happy essence & reacquaint myself with all of the things I loved about me! I let go of the notion that loving myself was selfish or vain. I realized that my relationships were a reflection. I knew that to have loving and healthy relationships, I needed to love myself and become the best version of myself that I could be!
That changed my life so drastically. In rediscovering what I love about myself, I was also able to identify what I didn’t like. The comfort was knowing that anything that I don’t like, I have the power to change. I now have incredible, healthy & happy relationships. I met and fell in love with my soulmate. And, I am confident & proud of who I am becoming.
What about you? Have you forgotten yourself? Or have you totally embraced loving yourself?